The idea of being ready to quit drinking has come up recently. I may have written about this before, but I am too lazy to look back. And, who knows, my thoughts may be different today.
Can you be ready to quit drinking? And, if so, how would you know?
If you are waiting until it is simple and doesn’t take any effort, pain, work, sweat or tears, you will never be ready. Your addictive, compulsive thoughts will convince you that all these things mean sobriety isn’t for you. You will convince yourself that your are supposed to be sitting alone, drinking yourself into oblivion. Because you deserve it, and it’s fun and everyone else is doing it, and you still have a job and you aren’t that bad…..yet
There is an other possibility…
You are ready if you want things to be different. If you are tired of feeling crappy. If things feel like they are getting out of control. If you want to live, instead of slowly dying. If so, it is time to take action. Go to a meeting, call a therapist, ask for help. Do Something. Put in the work. Hold on to the possibility that life can only get better. That happiness and freedom are on the other side of the fear of sobriety.
Waiting until your are ready for any change is an illusion. It implies we think we can control life. This desire for control is the root of our suffering. We want things to go a certain way, and when they don’t, we blame our family, karma, the universe, ourselves. We assume that because something is uncomfortable, or difficult, it is wrong for us.
Or they do go our way, and we take it as a sign we are being favoured. That luck is on our side.
But, in reality, things are as they are.
If you want things to be different today, make them different. Choose life. Take the risk.
Stillness and peace