Making new memories

This weekend I went to a fancy gala. I wore a long red dress. I had my hair done, my nails done, my makeup done. 1000 people attend and there is always a great concert as part of the show.

I’ve gone to the annual event for many years. I don’t remember half of them. We always start drinking the fancy drinks at someone’s house before the event. Then we make our way to it and continue the booze train. Sophisticated drunkenness.

This year I was going to skip it, but my FAVOURITE singer from the 80’s was playing. The one whose posters graced my teenage walls. Who hasn’t played in concert in many years. So I decided to go. The date coincided with my 11 month sober mark.

Sober husband and I got dressed up. We looked great, if I do say so myself. We went to the pre party. I drank my rock star and visited and enjoyed myself. I actually felt MORE part of the crowd than ever, even though they were all drinking. In fact, by the time we headed out I was really glad I wasn’t them. Walking in high heels is hard enough sober!

The gala was beautiful. I don’t think I had ever noticed the room before. I wandered around, making small talk, admiring everyone’s dresses. Wine flowed. The line to the bathroom was ridiculous. I was happy not to have to carry a glass with me everywhere I went!

When teenage crush rock star came on stage I was front and centre in the crowd. I felt 14 again. He was still handsome, his voice was great and his songs brought back so many memories. My heart filled with joy that I was there, enjoying his singing, just feet from me.

I was overcome by the moment. The feeling of being present. Of fully embracing life. I know that a year ago I was so busy getting the next drink I barely paid attention to the entertainment. It was a blur. But not that night. That night time stood still and I was so thankful and proud of myself that tears came to my eyes. And all I could think was I am on the right path.

I never want to dull my life again. There are too many moments like this that I might miss.

23 thoughts on “Making new memories

  1. Oh how wonderful, this story brought tears to my eyes- happy tears. I love that you are on the right path – the one that doesn’t produce a dulled life….thank you for sharing:) xo

  2. I bet you looked fabulous – it certainly sounds like it! And I bet you looked just as good at the end of the night, too, unlike everyone else 😉 Congrats on your eleven months and your glamorous night out! xx

    1. I have definitely skipped some. I look at events now and ask myself, do I want to go or was this just an excuse to drink? If it was just an excuse to drink I often pass.

  3. I’m so happy for you anne! that sounds like such an incredible night. makes me realize how many “special occasions” and once in a lifetime concerts/ events I will never fully remember bc I was loaded. being sober really does equal being present. so good! congrats on 11 months!!

  4. Anne what a lovely story and i’m sure you looked fabulous! Congratulations on 11 months – that’s amazing! I hope you’ve a few photos of you and your husband looking quite dashing!

  5. Okay, so I have to ask…who was your crush? I used to crush on Vince Neil and Ric Ocasic, and Prince too. And Madonna. And Robert Smith. And on and on. 🙂
    I’m glad you decided to go. I do think that’s important, but to have an exit strategy just in case. Glad you had a good time!

  6. Sounds so great! I am so glad you had a wonderful time! (My first concert was Bryan Adams, also Canadian! I was 13 and my friend and I had seats behind the stage so I got a really nice view of his backside and the drummer. Oh, well! Still had fun.) Here’s to sober nights out! 😉

  7. What a wonderful, wonderful story, I am so glad I got to read it. Here’s how I got to read it: I was scrolling down my reader, read UnPickled’s latest, saw your comment that read “obviously my name is Anne.” I thought, “it was not obvious to me,” clicked ainsobriety and realized I wasn’t even following you. Mistake corrected, and now I can respond with your name 🙂

    Love, Josie

    PS… in my haste to comment I did not read the rest of the comments… did you ever tip us off to who the 80’s rock star was? I am a child of the 80’s (will be 45 in less than a week!), so I’m sure the picture graced my walls as well 🙂

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